I'm 8 weeks postpartum and I'm not okay. Not in a crisis — but not in the version of this that gets posted online either. I'm in the messy, unglamorous, nobody-talks-about-this middle of it. And I wanted to put it on record, in real time, because I genuinely could not find content that showed me what this actually looks like when you're living it.
I have a retained placenta. A large ovarian cyst. Bleeding that won't stop. Hormones so destabilizing they feel, I'm not exaggerating, like a psychedelic experience. And on top of all of that, a body I don't recognize, clothes that don't fit, and a version of myself I'm still trying to locate somewhere underneath all of it.
The six-week appointment comes and goes and the world acts like that's the end of the story. It is not the end of the story. For a lot of us it's barely the beginning of understanding what just happened to our bodies and who we are now inside them.
I made this episode because I was desperate for it and it didn't exist. Nobody shows you this part. The books don't cover it. The instagram posts skip it. The doctors send you home with almost nothing. I have nearly 900,000 followers and when I asked for postpartum expert recommendations I got four responses. Four.
Here's what I want you to know: the discomfort is not a sign that something is wrong with you. It is a side effect of what your body just did. The hormonal chaos, the physical recovery, the identity shift, the grief, the joy, the confusion of feeling all of it at once. This is postpartum. Very few women get to skip it. And because almost nobody talks about it honestly, so many of us move through it thinking we're alone or behind or broken. We are not.
I'm sharing this because I think new moms deserve more than a six-week checkup and a pamphlet. You deserve to see what this actually looks like in real time, so that when you're in it, you feel less alone and more supported. I know I'm going to be okay. I really do. But right now I'm in it, and I want you to know that it is okay to be deeply uncomfortable. You are allowed to struggle. You are allowed to not have it together. That is not failure. That is postpartum.
You are a good mom.
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